Relationships have their trials and tribulations as it is — dealing with money issues, communication problems, or in some cases maybe even trust. But what happens when you add race to the mix?

 

Race has been a controversial topic from the start, with the enslavement of minorities, the torture of those in concentration camps and being ostracized by society.

 

Though society has set aside some of its ignorance and made a change for the better, there is a newer controversy that has people talking: interarracial couples.

 

Interracial relationships are becoming more and more common, whether there are people who approve of it or not. Although it has become common, interracial relationships maintain controversy.

 

Martin Luther King Jr. said there one day would be a change. Many people believe that there hasn’t been much of a change, but I disagree.

 

If I can drink at the same fountain, use the same restroom as other races, sit next to my friends that embrace every race, and most of all go to the same college, then things have definitely changed.

 

When it comes to romantic relationships with another race is where the invisible line may be crossed.

 

It used to be taboo for African Americans to mix with Caucasians, Hispanics to mix with African Americans, Caucasians to mix with Asians—and the list goes on. The question is why. What sets us apart from each other besides the color of our skin?

 

The only thing I could possibly see that may be conflicting is religion or cultural differences. Religion for most people is an uncompromising value, but when two people believe in the same religion and maintain a common bound, race should not be a deciding factor in pursuing a relationship with someone.

 

Some people limit themselves because of what others may think or say when in actuality no one else’s opinion matters.

 

The way I look at it is, if you live life worrying about what others may think of you or what your friends may think of you or your relationship, you will never be happy. If your “friends” are judging you based on a decision you made, you might want to ask yourself who your true friends are.

 

My personal experience tells me relationships are hard. There are problems all couples face, but being in a relationship with a different race has made the stakes even higher.

 

I knew automatically my parents would like my boyfriend because of his persona, and him being white would be something that would never matter.

 

Although it was easy for the both of us to get along with our families, believe it or not, it wasn’t quite easy to convince the world. I’m black and he’s white was something we both knew and accepted.

 

Of course going in to the relationship, I knew we would get stares or hear whispers behind our backs, but I did not realize that would be almost everywhere we went.

 

If I’m happy I can easily get past people staring; at least that was my way of thinking. Once I got past that, I got to really enjoy a relationship for what it was — a loving relationship.

 

Now we only deal with minor problems just as any other relationship such as: arguing about being late, who is the worst at communicating, things of that sort.

 

Thankfully, after a year we have made it past the petty arguments and have gotten past the stares and whispers of those who may not see the beauty of our relationship as an interracial couple.

 

But then again what matters is the love between us both.

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